Wednesday, January 11, 2017

Tuition anyone?

Assalamualaikum n Happy Tuesday....

We are already in the middle of January...n school  marks its 9th day for MH...n I have met a handful of MH's classmates' parents and got the up close and personal experience with the mindsets of Malaysian parents. To be honest, i can 'see' anxiety and ambitious that spells : Competition. Woah.... what have we got here? A very competitive society ? Not to mention, a highly protocol nation and goes by the individual title to set an invisible rank? Howeeee.... It was an exciting n eye opening experience for me to get to know people from different backgrounds.

I do love to sit back and 'watch n read' people. I have learnt it from the best : My father... Why? He told me once that to be able to access and observe your surroundings gives you added advantages in social interaction and avoid conflicts due to differences. I didnt understand his points at that time because i was in primary school. Later in my life, Yup...he is absolutely right about it. One of the advantage we are getting to know human personalities and we get to apply the suitable friendship approach individually...hmmmm thinking back, i am taking a wrong major here? hahaha...

Back to the reality of our education system. I don't recall when I was young, school time is so stressful and pressured especially in primary? Should i just jump into the bandwagon and push my kids into series of tuition classes, give them a mountain of homework, ask them to sit and study everyday? or i just let them learn n experience themselves? Or should i feel guilty that i didnt do any of the above for my kids? Most answers given by the parents I have met : we dont want our kids to be left behind and want them to be the best.

Hmmmmm.... it brings shivers down my spine because we are talking about 7 years old kids!! Most of the MH's classmates attend tuition classes ( from KUMON, english, math, other languages, including Mandarin) since they were 6 years old!. I got a unbelievable stare when I said.. i dont send him and we dont have a near future plan to send him to one. But, we will send him when he is in standard 6... Hmmmmm.... it's a complicated situation to be honest.... Malaysia society: tuition... I cant ignore the facts that we are an exam orientated society. Durra, just live with it...hahahaha....

Yours truely,
Rebel is my middle name

2 comments:

Neny said...

Durra, aku baru tahun ni nak hantar anak2 tuition, tu pon sbb nak UPSR. ye, mmg ramai je parents yg hantar anak2 gi tuition, seawal umur 4 tahun pon ada! Tapi aku rasa kesian kat anak2, dah la sekolah pagi petang, malam nak buat homework, hantar tuition kang lagi la terkejar2.

Anyway, aku x nak judge, terpulang la kat masing2 punya pandangan. Sebab aku x ambitious, aku x la susah hati pon kalau anak2 aku x dpt straight As pon..janji suka belajar....hehehe.

durra abd razak @ kocikin... said...

Neny....
Aku pun x judge juga org...cuma aku amaze bila ada parents yg mula hantar anak diorng sedari umur 5-6 tahun lagi..rasa mcm awal jugak tu... bila dh darjah 5-6 tu...ada juga keperluannya di situ sbb nak get ready utk upsr...wpun x target straight As tp nak build up diorng punya confidence level... cuma x sangka level of competition tu sgt tinggi... huhuhu