Monday, July 10, 2017

It's July 2017....

Assalamualaikum n happy half way Syawal 1348H peeps...

lama betul x bersiaran...since ada IG account, mmg blog ni sgt laa di anak tirikan. hehehe....sebabnya x menyempat nak duduk kat depan lappy n menaip!But this blog has a special spot in my life due to its humble beginning when I first started to get involved in IT/ blogging world. If I am not mistaken, the blog plays importance role in writing down my life since 2007. Almost a decade!!!

Banyak kenangan dan memory yg tersimpan dlm blog ni....kalau sesiapa yg pernah follow blog aku ni dari dulu mmg Nampak evolution perjalanan hidup aku...dari mula berkahwin, bekerja di IPTA, kemusian berhijrah ke UK..penambahan keluarga di sana dari berdua kepada 3..kemudian jadi 4..dari kisah MH yang menjadi penghuni tetap PAH (Princess Anne Hospital, Southampton) dari janin lagi hingga awal setahun usianya...kemudian IN pun menghadirkan diri...kisah aku menjadi suri pelajar...dan we are back for good after nearly 7 years jadi org UK...n skrng, my student life is nearly ends...n hopefully by 2018, buka chapter baru in my life..sebagai seorang yg bekerjaya maybe ;) doa2kan lah ye kengkawan n pembaca2 tersayang... Ameen...tiada yg mustahil.... Life family kami walau pun xde la happening n x hipster pun..hahaha..Alhamdulillah, we lead a very humble yet happy life. Cukup makan, cukup pakai, cukup utk infaq sket22...ok lah...keter buatan Malaysia ada sebijik (loans)...rumah dok menyewa lagi n masih duduk berdekatan dgn inlaw.....kesihatan pun masih ok...anak2 pun dah mula masuk sekolah...bea sungguh 15 years back..Nikmat mana yg mahu  kamu dustakan...cukup serba serbi.... :)


Sunday, January 15, 2017

Jawi dilemma....

Assalamualaikum n Happy Monday...

Nampaknya aku semakin rajin jengah blog ni..Hihihi...bukan apa, bila tengah stuck dgn writing. Writing dlm bentuk yg lebih santai bagi aku kebebasan utk mengutarakan pandangan. Ok x BM aku..hehehe..

Kali ni episod Jawi pulak...Bukan Counter strike back..Tapi how to instill jawi to your kids..Jangan tanya aku lagi sbb anak2 aku mmg x reti Jawi. Cumanya aku nak diorng belajar perkara asas ni supaya diorng x jadi buta Jawi..jawi tu pada aku sebahagian dari jati diri Bangsa Melayu.... Jawi tu sgt cantik dan indah..tetambah kalau korng pandai tulis khat...pergggh....mmg marbeles

Pada aku, Jawi tu super important spt mana tahu membaca Iqra dan Al Quran. Disebabkan aku x hantar MH ke kelas KAFA, aku kena cari jalan mcm mana nak bagi MH tahu membaca dan menulis Jawi. Sebab x hantar lagi ke kelas KAFA, nak bg dia adjust dgn routine baru yg agak memenatkan dia....

Benda ni mmg x mudah dan memerlukan latihan dari segi pengalaman dan juga pembacaan. Tapi achievable InsyaAllah. Mcm aku dulu, mmg dr darjah 1, parents aku hantar aku g kelas KAFA yg lebih kurang mcm skrng ni..n Sekolah menengah pun aku belajar dlm suasana yg memerlukan aku menulis Jawi setiap hari...Boleh la takat nak baca Jawi tu lepas la org kata, tapi bab menulis tu dah mcm kura2 sbb jarang practice skrng ni...huhhu....

Untuk bab Iqra dan Al Quran. Kami laki bini selain di para guru tadika mengajar MH (thanks very much Tadika HI). Alhamdulillah, lepas satu hurdle, MH mulakan 2017 dengan buku baru iaitu Al Quran. Caranya:

1. Iqra di ajar di tadika selang sehari (day care only, waktu ptg)
2. Setiap mlm, kami laki bini takes turn ajar MH dlm maximum 15 minutes
3. Bagi setiap level yg Iqra, MH berjaya habiskan, award akan diberikan (x lebih dr RM100)
so antara yang MH pernah request n dpt (Aquarium set, Hot Wheel set, Badminton rackets..semua request tu mmg ikut musim minat MH..

Cumanya, approach utk MH tu x berapa sesuai dgn adiknya yang x berapa nak focus. Jadinya utk IN..kami cuma spent 5 minutes je dulu utk dia baca Iqra n system rewards masih diguna pakai...So, nnt kita tengok perjalanan IN belajar Iqra sbb dia cepat hilang fokus n Manja yg amat!!!

InsyaAllah utk pembelajaran Jawi bagi MH, aku cuba dulu dgn approach Pengenalan kepada suku kata Jawi dan sesi pembelajaran akan dibuat secara santai sahaja. Iaitu hujung minggu. Kenapa x hantar kepada org? Hmmmm satu budget mmg tight, satu lagi, aku cuba praktik apa yg mak aku dok buat kat kami. Beliau akan duduk n sama2 buat keje rumah dgn kami walaupun sesibuk mana pun jadual harian beliau (arwah mama mengajar di masjid2 dan surau2 di sekitar Bangi at that time). Biaanya dlm 15- 30m minit sehari...wpun kejap, tapi aku rasa berkesan. Mmg jarang aku kena denda dlm kelas sbb x buat homework..kalau lupa tu pun...aku lupa nak bawa kuar buku tu...padan muka..

Next project, mcm mana nak bagi bebudak ni hafal surah2 lazim yang selain Al Fatihah, 3 Kul dan yg pendek2 tu...mcm revision utk aku jugak...InsyaAllah..tu next project...

Aku x cuba nak judge or nak stamp aku punya pemikiran kpd org lain. Aku just nak share je apa yg aku cuba nak tengah buat. Segala cadangan dan pandangan amat dialu2kan...
Well...blog ni dh mcm blog pendidikan pulak...hahahahaha...layaaaannn....

Wednesday, January 11, 2017

Tuition anyone?

Assalamualaikum n Happy Tuesday....

We are already in the middle of January...n school  marks its 9th day for MH...n I have met a handful of MH's classmates' parents and got the up close and personal experience with the mindsets of Malaysian parents. To be honest, i can 'see' anxiety and ambitious that spells : Competition. Woah.... what have we got here? A very competitive society ? Not to mention, a highly protocol nation and goes by the individual title to set an invisible rank? Howeeee.... It was an exciting n eye opening experience for me to get to know people from different backgrounds.

I do love to sit back and 'watch n read' people. I have learnt it from the best : My father... Why? He told me once that to be able to access and observe your surroundings gives you added advantages in social interaction and avoid conflicts due to differences. I didnt understand his points at that time because i was in primary school. Later in my life, Yup...he is absolutely right about it. One of the advantage we are getting to know human personalities and we get to apply the suitable friendship approach individually...hmmmm thinking back, i am taking a wrong major here? hahaha...

Back to the reality of our education system. I don't recall when I was young, school time is so stressful and pressured especially in primary? Should i just jump into the bandwagon and push my kids into series of tuition classes, give them a mountain of homework, ask them to sit and study everyday? or i just let them learn n experience themselves? Or should i feel guilty that i didnt do any of the above for my kids? Most answers given by the parents I have met : we dont want our kids to be left behind and want them to be the best.

Hmmmmm.... it brings shivers down my spine because we are talking about 7 years old kids!! Most of the MH's classmates attend tuition classes ( from KUMON, english, math, other languages, including Mandarin) since they were 6 years old!. I got a unbelievable stare when I said.. i dont send him and we dont have a near future plan to send him to one. But, we will send him when he is in standard 6... Hmmmmm.... it's a complicated situation to be honest.... Malaysia society: tuition... I cant ignore the facts that we are an exam orientated society. Durra, just live with it...hahahaha....

Yours truely,
Rebel is my middle name

Monday, January 9, 2017

10th of January....2017

Assalamualaikum n well wishes to all my friends....

Today marks the 10th day of January...n this is my FIRST entry for the year of 2017.
Alhamdulillah we are still here and alive.....

Starting this year, my daily routine has also changed slightly,  because MH starts his standard 1 at Sekolah Kebangsaan.... means that another milestone in his life...

While IN has to get used to kindergarten life without her brother's presence. Now she is 5 years old. She doesn't seem bothered at all...hahahaha...Go go go girl...
N their momma....hoho...still struggling with the writing part. Have to finalize it by next month..InsyaAllah...

So far, not bad....I purposely didnt send MH to Kafa class because of his health condition - Semput/ lack of lugs capacity. Even he needs to attend SK session in the afternoon. It takes his energy away, and every night we need to puff him. But, looking at his spirits and courage, i feel at ease and i do believe that as time passes, as he is getting used to the system..InsyaAllah...everything will take place nicely....

Starting this week, schools have run its operation in full swing. No more orientation and it means, tonnes of book bring in to the class. MH has been placed in the DLP class after the initial test set by the school during orientation week. Hope that he is enjoying himself in that class and makes new friends...Three of his classmates from the pervious kindergarten are in his class.

In the mean time, I plan to teach him myself Jawi during weekend...Though, I am not excellent in Jawi, but I do believe the importance of Jawi in our life... His father will teach him Quran every night... The rest, it's up for him to decide and work for it... we dont want to push him because the learning process is a long journey. We just want him to enjoy his learning. But, we will try our best to support his needs. I bet every parent has the similar idea too ;) He needs to start Solah too..At least Maghrib... I am planning to spend at least 15 minutes a day during night time with both of them..Looking through the homeworks.

Ok guys, happy January....

Tuesday, November 22, 2016

Dulu dan Kini : kids nowadays

Assalamualaikum n Happy Wednesday....

Baru2 ni Kakwa ada terbaca kat Metro kes yang parents 'sound' x puas hati dengan pentadbiran sekolah berkenaan pelajar2 duduk di atas jalan waktu perhimpunan... n rentetan isu tu... mcm 'perang mulut' between PIBG n school management n semestinya netizens pun join semangkuk laa..bla bla bla bla....

Kakwa x kuasa nak panjangkan kisah tu...tp kisah ibu bapa n pelajar n sekolah bukan lah satu berita rare nowadys mmg selalu je keluar kisah2 seumpamanya...... n kakwa pun xde nak ulas panjang sbb x sure apa yg berlaku sebenarnya... Apa yang kakwa nak share/simpulkan:

1. Adab
Bab ni kita dedulu selalu belajar bawah title "Akhlak" ni kalau dlm syllbus Pendidikan Islam baik di Sekolah harian or Sekolah KAFA (yg petang tu)... kalau bebudak non-muslim..tu dalam Syllbus Moral bawah Nilai2 Murni...
Adab ni mmg merangkumi pegangan n pergerakan kita seharian... Jadinya Adab sewaktu makan, adab dengan jiran..even dgn haiwan n tumbuhan pun ada gak adabnya kepada makhluk Allah...
Adab kalau kita sebagai pelajar, Adab pelajar dan guru....dan adab dgn Ilmu...
Dari kecik lagi..bab adab ni...mama n abah tersangat laa particularnya.... silap langkah, x jaga adab... berbirat laaa tapak kaki or montot tu.. oppss...hehehe...
So, masa Kakwa sekolah2 dulu... mana laa Kakwa nak berani bgtahu Kakwa kena denda dgn cikgu (sebab lupa buat homework) or Kakwa kena berdiri luar kelas sbb Kakwa (buat2 lupa bawa buku..kes x siap homework) or Kakwa tumbuk manja kawan (hehehe...gurau je tu..darah skeet je pun) n kena mengadap Guru Besar.. mama biasanya tahu je..tp buat2 x tahu...hohoho....x berani Ooooi nak mengadu.... terutamanya mmg confirm laa salah Kakwa sendiri... silap mengadu... dapat 'rewards' berganda lagi ada lah...
N skrng, bila jumpa balik cikgu2 tu..jadi geng dah... betapa hormatnya Kakwa dgn guru2 yang mendidik Kakwa... sebab ketegasan diorng laaa Kakwa jadi 'org'..hehehe.... Alhamdulillah...

2. Disiplin di rumah
Benda ni sebenarnya common sense...... tapi mungkin ada masa kita terlupa dgn bab EQ ni... Kakwa ckp diri sendiri.... Memula dulu Kakwa dok buat laa benda mcm2 utk anak2 Kakwa.... dr mandi kan , pakai kan baju, suapkan makanan.... errmmm.... tp kalau baby/toddler... ok lagi... bebaru ni..reality hits me hard...eh...anak2 aku dah umur 4 tahun ke atas dah... they are kids already n mulut pun pot pet pot pet... x baligh lagi..tp dah tahu bezakan mana yg OK n mana yg x OK...Subhanallah... masa Kakwa umur 6 tahun... mcm2 dah mama n abah suruh buat... wpun ada pembantu rumah sendiri... tp they are very strict with us...especially bab menjaga diri....
- kemas tempat tidur.. (xde suruh cekangkan katil mcm kat kem tentera) asalkan xde nampak x senonoh sgt katil...ok laa tu
- baju kotor...letak dlm washing machine..baju yg dah dilipat...masukkan sendiri dlm cabinet
- toys/meja study- sila kemas sendiri...Mak korang bukan maid ok...
- dining- tlng set up meja, bawa pinggan etc...n lepas makan...tlng bawa sendiri ke sink...basuh lg bagus...
- tolong sidaikan kain
- buang kan sampah
- sapu porch
- bagi kucing makan...
n the list goes on and on...sesuai laa dgn umur kitaorng....
Jadinya...what my parents did to us... I just apply it on these two muchkins...n keep on telling them...you are responsible for ur own act... x kemas meja study.. n tetiba air tertumpah atas paper..jgn nak naik angin ok.... or korng x angkat pinggan makan.. n semut dtg secara berjemaah n gigit korang...kenapa ye?i j
Hehehe.... lately, Kakwa banyak pot pet....i try to reduce it... sbbnya letih..hahaha... i just wanna tell them, by helping me doing these small chores, you are one step to be independant n reliable person in the future.....they might not like it now, hopefully, they will see the benefits later...InsyaAllah...mama korng bukan tongkat langit or maid ye ;)

3. Polite
Yup bab ni mmg agak payah bg Kakwa jugak sbb DNA kami jenis bukan duduk diam2 n cakap perlahan2..hehehe... org kedah+ org perlis... rare kot nak tengok jenis x ckp deraih...hahahaha.. kami mmg set riuh... wpun ckp kuat...x semestinya kami x polite...yup..bab tu juga amat dititikberatkan oleh my parents... Tolong... terima kasih.. minta maaf... tu ayat2 emas... n lagi satu bersalaman dgn org yg kita kenal/jumpa...oooh tu Kakwa sgt ingat...sbb gara2 rebel xmo salam sorng auntie n lari kuar mcm tu...dapat hadiah tazkirah sejam n garis merah kat tapak kaki...ouchhhhh.... tp kesan mmg bagus utk ingatan...lepas tu...xyah suruh..x yah paksa.. terus je Kakwa buat...hehehehe....
Kakwa cuba gak terapkan dgn bebudak ni.... nampak mcm cheesy je.... tp kesopanan dan kesilaan tu...masuk dlm rukun Negara tu...

ok laaa....kakwa pun nak continue writing benda wajib... moga anak2 kita membesar jadi anak2 yg soleh dan solehah.... mmg penat jd parents ni kan..hew hew hew ;)

Monday, November 14, 2016

Terkenang sewaktu dulu....

Assalamualaikum n happy Tuesday semua...

Lama senyap n tetiba muncul...Yup...since September, I was pushing myself to finish my write up...Hm...boleh dikatakan ianya satu proses yang stressful! hehehe....n last month (November) mmg terkesan dgn segala pressure yg badan n minda aku hadam n hadap..Seisi rumah sakit secara berperingkat2...n i was e last Moma standing..hohoh...Alhamdulillah skrng semua dah ok....n me myself n Durra...pinggang pun dah ok selepas 'serah diri' ke acupunture sifu..gara2 semua dah x jln (pain killer, urut etc) tinggal skett lagi nak g pakar..Hohoho....selepas badan kena cucuk2 dgn jarum n bekam darah...my condition is getting better...almost a moth juga x productive n lebih banyak masa ke clinic n menjaga patients ;) $$$ mmg banyak digunakan utk November bg tujuan tersebut...rasa mcm i at the end of my wits...hohoo...the deadlines mixed up with family needs...Tapi last2, i just serah kat Allah je...x kuasa nak control semua benda n stress myself unecessarily...Alhamdulillah...

So siapa2 yg mmg bercita2 nak sambung study... Terus terang saya bg nasihat yg ideal " Perjalanan itu tidak mudah, dan bersedialah dengan unexpected events..Kalau perjalanan anda smooth...itu mmg rezeki memasing..Alhamdulillah'..It not about intelligent, but it's more about preserverence, rezeki dan juga merendah diri...But, it doesnt mean that your journey would be same like mine..Just go n give it a try ok...Tp seronok juga sebenarnya sbb mcm2 org kita jumpa...n macam2 situasi yg kita kena hadapi....at e end of the day, you learn more about your abilities and starts to love yourself..jiwang x? kikiki...So kengkawan, please pray that i can finally reach the end of this journey with flying colors ya by next year...Ameen...

I rarely told people about my study journey...sbb i bet many of the candidates out there face challenges and at one point, rasa exhausted n nak give up pun ada..in my case, banyak kali..kikiki...smpai i lost count!!! but still, i pull up myself n gather my strenghts yang masih bersisa...menongkah arus juga.Why? Sacrifice from people i love...make me stronger n keep on doing this...Jadi, nak x nak, have to finish it kan ;)

Oraits....i will keep on posting into this blog cause it makes me feel sane ;)



Friday, November 11, 2016

Wow!!!


Congratulations to both sister and brother in law for their graduation and PhD completion. Both had endured different PhD journeys especially my sister. At the end, they succeeded...Alhamdulillah and celebrate the victory together this year..Alhamdulillah...Congratulation to Dr. IR Shamsul Akmar and Dr. Najjah Salwa.

I knew that deep inside your heart Sis, you felt incomplete without mama presence during your glorious day. I felt the same thing too..Because she was our best supporter in this journey and she sacrificed a lot...May Allah have Mercy on her InsyaAllah...Al- Fatihah...

I am trying my best and hard to end my story too..Hopefully by mid next year..I get the freedom..InsyaAllah....